03 Jul Wedding Drama Pep Talk
Long time no Blog. Mea culpa.
Today I want to talk about wedding drama… because it’s as real and in your face as the excitement of wedding planning – but can really put a damper on things, and if you’re like me – get you so fired up you’re yelling in the car to no one in particular as you drive down the road to your next vendor appointment… just so you can get out all of your frustration, and then slap a pretty smile back on your face as you walk through the door to meet your florist.
It’s finally your turn. YOU get to be the bride (or groom)… everyone is so excited. People are coming out of the woodwork to congratulate you and share in your excitement.
Slowly… people start to offer you unsolicited opinions.
They start to tell you what to do and what not to do…
Friends… siblings… cousins… aunts… parents… in-laws… STRANGERS…. everyone.
It starts to feel a little overwhelming. It may even become extremely overwhelming. At moments you even start to wonder if this is your wedding or if it’s everyone else’s. You even have that moment of, “Oh my God… Vegas.”
And you know what doesn’t help? Hearing, “Remember! It’s about YOU two! At the end of the day – do what makes YOU happy.” Because that’s total bullshit. It’s a nice sentiment, but if we planned our weddings just for us, and took that advice, and ignored everyone else… No one would show up to our weddings because we would have insulted everyone on the planet by telling them to stop trying to help. And truth be told, it’s NOT just about “you two” – it’s about joining two families – and therefore, it’s about everyone. If it were just about you two, you’d go to the courthouse. On some level, you need and want others to be involved during this exciting time.
Thankfully, you have the loving people who truly just want to make it wonderful… but there is no escaping the fact that you will offend at LEAST one person greatly throughout this process… without even meaning to. Some may even unfriend on you on Facebook. It may be completely unjustified for them to be offended (after all – it’s YOUR wedding, right?) – but they will be… And ultimately, you just have to take a deep breath and let it go, and understand that you simply cannot please everyone and THAT IS OK.
However… keep in mind… that once you get through all of the wedding drama with your hair intact, and with the same partner you got into this mess with… you will be stronger for it. By the time your big day arrives – the drama will (hopefully) have passed. Those who truly love you will be there and will be happy for you…. It will all be worth it!
And when it’s all said and done… hopefully you hired me as your wedding photographer, and you have amazing wedding photos to plaster all over your house and put into an album to remember how perfect your wedding day was…. I can officially say I have been there through all the planning, and all the drama… and my husband and I came out virtually unscathed, and very happily married. You will too! I’ll pep talk you all the way through it if I have to <3
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With love & hope for peace in your wedding planning,